Archer was definitely "testing" how far he could go, how many times I would warn him, would I follow through, and on and on.
So, after a {very annoying} trip to Target, I told him that when he got home, he was to go into his room and not say anything to me until I came in and talked to him.
He got on his computer. {No, it's not a real computer. It's a V-tech one.}
From his room I hear him yell, "Moooooom, how do you spell 'mom is'?" I tell him {hesitantly}.
This simple question led to a lot of thinking for me...What was he writing? Am I mean? Am I in a bad mood? Am I unfair? Am I a "no fun" mommy?
After a few minutes, I went to go check on what he was typing.
"mom is 35 mom loves archer."
I have to admit I was relieved when I saw this; however, I was still thinking {about 2 things}...
{1} What kind of mommy am I? Do my kids feel valued? Do they feel like they're walking on egg shells around me? Am I too strict? Am I fair? ...on and on.
I AM {what} in his eyes?
but then also got to thinking...
{2} How resilient kids are. How structure makes them feel safe. How when they know their expectations...they also know their consequences. How smart they are. ...on and on.
So, I am going into another crazy day here {because those are the only days we have}. They are good crazy, though, because I wouldn't change it for a thing. I want to go into today with the thought of...
Who am I to my kids? I don't need to be their best friend, but I do want to be a good mommy.
A mommy who is kind.
A mommy who is fair.
A mommy who is loving.
A mommy who is not reactive.
A mommy who is patient.
...and, yes, I am a mommy who is 35 and a mommy who loves Archer.
2 comments:
You are all of the positives you said above. Have a wonderful crazy day!
Sweet--both what Archer wrote on his computer and what kind of mommy you want to be.
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